Q: My sponsee resents me. What should I do?

If your sponsee repeatedly gets upset with you or resentful of you, is 'triggered' by you, needs time to 'recover' from conversations with you, huffs and puffs, sighs, delivers long, pregnant silences, finds the process 'traumatic', has 'abandonment' or 'discard' issues, regularly bursts into tears or erupts into the screaming ab-dabs, uses the Step Four, Eight, Ten, or Eleven processes to reveal their complex complexes about you, or otherwise gives the impression they find the process of working with you disagreeable, objectionable, alarming, repulsive, or downright harrowing:

(1) Do not attempt to work through this with them. This merely amplifies the drama.

(2) Suggest they work through it with someone else. Usually it's a storm in a teacup and is really a manifestation of disliking admission of wrong, action, responsibility, direction, or change.

(3) If they can't get over it quickly, they need to find another sponsor.

If this repeats with two or more sponsors in a row, the sponsee is likely un-sponsorable, for now.