Sponsorship is based on good faith.
It's an asymmetrical relationship.
The sponsor's being asked to help the sponsee identify where
they're going wrong in belief, thinking, and behaviour, and that involves
expressing observations that will be very uncomfortable.
The favour is not returned, however; 'right of appeal' is
certainly available, and discussions can certainly be raised about
misunderstandings, adjusting details of how the process works, seeking
clarification on tough points raised, etc., and it's certainly the sponsor's
job to admit their own relevant faults and mistakes where appropriate.
However, when the tables are turned, and the sponsee or
potential sponsee moves into accusation, personal attack, undermining of the
person's home group or other groups, manoeuvring in relation to others in the
group or circle of acquaintances, playing off against others, or other
expressions of mistrust, hostility, cynicism, etc., the basis for sponsorship
is destroyed.
The relationship is based on trust and good faith, and,
without that, there is no relationship.
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